12 Nov

Thankfulness: Fly Lady

This post is definitely one out of the ordinary. It’s also a continuation, or rather and expounding on last week’s post sharing the things I’m thankful for this year.


Overwhelmed & Out of Control

I’m going to get right to it because I really don’t like to drag things out.

For years, I had trouble keeping my home clean. In my previous marriage, I never kept the house clean. It’s a wonder we didn’t split over that.

I would get seriously overwhelmed with all I had to do, the kids, and work that house keeping was on the list of my priorities. I was easily overwhelmed and stressed out and now I see that NOT keeping my home in order, contributed to the chaos and stress (not being able to find thing, being organized and late getting out in the mornings).

Long after my divorce, old habits still died hard. While I would commit weekends to doing a full cleaning within a few days, my home would be a wreck all over again. I couldn’t understand it. So, then my entire weekends were committed to cleaning house. Week after week after week. If I had something I wanted to do, I’d skip the cleaning and then when I got home, I’d be annoyed with things being out of order.

This is the life of a not-born-organizer. Then, I discovered FlyLady.


Fast forward a few years and through a few organizational systems (like Alejandra Costello) and I am so thankful to have found FlyLady.net.

While, born organizers like Alejandra can teach you systems to organize your home and your life, I found them to be way too intensive for me. All the various check sheets (daily, weekly, monthly, quarterly, annually) was just too much. I needed something simple I could stick to…15 minutes a day.

That’s what FlyLady recommends. It doesn’t matter if your home is buried in clutter. If you can commit to something as simple as decluttering 15 minutes a day + developing a morning and night time routine (these usually take 5-10 minutes), your home will be in order and stay in order. The basis of this system is taking baby steps and working in zones. That’s right. You break your home up into zones and you work on keeping those zones clean just 15 minutes a day.

I can not not tell you how much of a bright light went on over my head when I started following FlyLady’s system of cleaning. My home is always in order now and if it gets even a tad bit out of order, I return to my routines and in just a few short minutes, my home is more than company ready. I have purchased some of FlyLady’s cleaning tools as well but I find the Weekly Home Blessing Hour to be the most important to keeping my home in order. I am so thankful for finding this system and I don’t think my life will ever be the same.

As FlyLady says, “I’m flying.”

This post is just one of several in which I will be sharing things I am thankful for this 2014. Stay tuned.


10 Nov

5 Reasons Your Natural Hair Sucks

natural hair

Nobody wants to be told their natural hair sucks. Natural hair is the bomb dot com! Who cares what anybody else thinks.


Suckiness (ay, I’m coining a new word here :-) ) is more about perception than reality. How YOU perceive your natural hair to be is much more important than what somebody else’s opinion of it is. And if you think your natural hair sucks, then here are a few potential reasons why:

1- You don’t have an established hair care regimen. You wash whenever, moisturize only when you discover your hair is dry and deep condition on occasion. Basically, you have no definitive plan to keep your hair healthy and looking good.

2. You’re trying way too many products. So, you binge watch Youtube videos (been there, done that) and now you are trying this product and that product just because you “heard” it was fresh (yes, y’all I’m from the 80s).

3. You need a trim. Health over length. You’ve heard it time and again…and it’s true. With health comes length so if your ends are scraggly and raggedy, for the love of natural hair, get a trim. It will grow back….Promise.

4. You don’t know how to style it. We all want to try that sexy twisted, pinned to the side and flipped to the front do. Does it even work with your face? Another problem is, your natural hair may not be capable of doing all of that. It may even cause YOUR hair some breakage (Check out this article on 10 Reasons That Natural Hair Style Tutorial Didn’t Work for You) which brings me to my final point.

5. You’e handling your hair way too much. Low manipulation is key for most but critical to those with fine hair. Constantly touching your hair causes constant damage. You lose a little protein and moisture every time you handle your hair so doing so only when needed will help extend the life cycle of your strands.

Do you think your natural hair sucks? Or maybe you did at one time. If so, do any of these “reasons” ring a bell? Chime off in the comments section below.


07 Nov

2014 In Review: What I’m Thankful For

being thankful

We are just a couple weeks shy of Thanksgiving Day. I don’t want to wait until then to share what I am thankful for.

2014 was a year of learning and accepting. I discovered things about myself and my abilities as well as things about those closest to me. In spite of some disappointments, I still have much to be thankful for this year. Here’s the short list (I will share the details later)…

I’m thankful for:

  • Receiving a good health report – negative for diabetes
  • My relationship with my husband
  • Getting on track with my finances
  • Discovering what it takes to grow my hair to longer lengths
  • Being in a good place on my job – the flexibility
  • My son’s neurologist and other care givers
  • Getting my home organized
  • Having a home maintenance plan that works

There’s so much much more to be thankful for but these are the things that I have either had challenges or great improvements with this past year, 2014. I will share in future posts more on some of these as we get closer to Thanksgiving Day. Gotta keep it relevant :-). I think it’s important to share how we grow in our relationships and discoveries.

Is there something that you just realized you are thankful for this year?


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