Here at Radiant Brown Beauty, I share ways to enhance and improve your outer beauty – hair, skin, nails. But what about your inner beauty? Isn’t it just as, if not more important?
Many times we seek everything possible to make our hair shinier and longer, make our skin clearer and more radiant. There’s nothing wrong with using beauty products to make us look better and subsequently feel better about ourselves. Yet, when you have a solid positive view of your inner self, your external beauty reflects that automatically.
If you want to find your inner beauty, there’s one thing I suggest you do.
Stop comparing yourself to others. That’s it. The end.
You’re never going to have the physical features of the next woman. You’re never going to have the same skill set. And that’s OK.
This is something I’ve come to learn and am still learning. I didn’t make these statements to be harsh. I made them because I’m living them.
For example, I absolutely adore my fellow blogger, Shelli’s hair as well as how she runs her blog. My blog is a lot older than hers but hasn’t achieved the same status. (I’m being transparent now so be kind). Why? Is what I have to say not as interesting or useful? Is how I say things preventing me from connecting with ladies the way she has? No clue.
On a more personal front, I’ve run out and purchased products because Shelli (and others) said were thebomb.com (Shelli probably wouldn’t use those words. She doesn’t appear to have the ghetto factor that I have LOL). I’ve purchased virtually every hair product she’s reviewed because I wanted my hair to look like hers. What an injustice I’m doing to my own hair and to my own work.
Compliment Don’t Copy
There’s nothing wrong with trying new products or admiring the work of others. It’s fun and provides a learning experience. But it becomes disappointing when you try products or copy the style of another expecting to achieve the same results.
I still buy products based on the recommendations of others. I still observe things others do in business that I find fascinating.
The difference is I now do these things because I think I can learn a thing or two. I think that the recommended products will actually make me (my hair, my skin, my body) better but I don’t expect the same results as another.
I’m learning that in order to be happy with my external features, I need to first work on the inner me. And that starts with dropping the comparison factor.
You can’t really shine on the outside until you first shine on the inside. Finding your inner beauty is about embracing who YOU are, discovering the gifts God has given you and exercising them.